You Can't Be His Peace If You're Nothing To Yourself

Let’s just jump right in. I preach this time and time again, take care of yourself FIRST. Yes, your partner has needs and yes, you should probably tend to them or whatever [insert sarcastic eye roll] however, how can you give peace, joy, love, and compassion when you are none of those things to yourself. I get it. As women, we’re natural caregivers and nurturers. Taking care of others is woven into the fabric of our being. I know, people expect you to be superwoman and take care of everything and everybody...while looking fly...and being someone’s peace...girl.

In case of a decrease in cabin pressure, flight attendants tell passengers to apply their own oxygen masks first BEFORE helping someone else apply theirs. Now why do you think that is? Well, I’m glad you asked. Because how the hell you gon’ help somebody else apply their mask if you run out of oxygen? Yes, I said “gon”. Anyway, I’m sure you get it by now. Help yourself first before helping someone else.

To break it down even further, you can’t help someone (or be someone’s peace) if you’re running on E. Basically, you can’t pour from an empty glass. Think of the water in a glass as “what you have to give”. If you are doing more giving than replenishing, then how are you going to have enough to pour out? How are you able to be somebody’s peace?  Simply put, you gotta take care of yourself first sis. Do I agree that you should be your partner’s peace? Sure. But there are some things that you HAVE to do first before making that happen.

Check Yourself

Do daily check-ins with yourself. Ask yourself, “how am I feeling?”

Have you been doing the things that fill you up?

When’s the last time you meditated? Peace.

When’s the last time you twerked in the mirror while getting dressed? Joy.

When’s the last time you laughed uncontrollably? Happiness.

You see where I’m going with this? Check yourself.

Check Your Source

Where are you pulling from? We talked about how you can’t pour from an empty glass, but where’s your water coming from? My suggestion is that you start with something higher and much greater than yourself. For me, that’s God. I talk to Jesus Every. Single. Day. He fills me up like no other. Honestly, bae should be grateful that I have Jesus in my life because...whew, chile.

Check Your Partner

This is another thing I just want to throw out there. Hopefully you all catch it. I value reciprocity in relationships. Not trying to play tit for tat, but if I am supposed to be my partner’s peace, then he needs to be mine too. Just sayin’.

Be his peace, but take care of yourself FIRST.

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